So I’m going to start this saga with introducing everyone to Biggz. I met Biggz about 3 years ago…
I was new to LA. So clubbing in Hollywood was definitely the thing to do. One weekend night, my girl and I decided to go to a very popular spot located in West Hollywood. (And no it was not a gay club!) I had spent all afternoon searching for an outfit and ended up buying a red, sparkly tube top from Arden B. Which I paired with some little black shorts that gave a glimpse of the tatoo on my upper thigh. I completed the ensemble with black sandals that laced up my calf. I was too sexy and I knew it that night!
After getting into the already packed club, my friend and I walked around exploring the atmosphere. We ended up outside on a small patio. Not too long after securing our spot, a rather large, dark skinned guy comes through the back enterance with a friend and takes a seat at a reserved booth on the patio. It would have been impossible not to notice him. Not only because of his size, but due to his presence. He knew that he was the shit and carried himself that way. I immediately knew, I had to catch his attention.
So I positioned myself directly in his line of view and made sure my longs legs were visible. Random guys kept coming up to me and my friend attempting to make small talk. But my focus was on the booth in the corner. After a few minutes, he looked up and noticed my thighs, then as his eye made their way to my face we locked eye contact. He nodded and motioned me over to the booth. He offered me and my friend a much needed place to sit, and the small talk began. He told me his name and we exchanged numbers. I don’t remember everything that was said. But shortly there after, he excused himself and left the table. And I don’t think that I saw him again that night.
Now let’s fast-forward 3 years. Over the years Biggz and I have remained friends, but never had an actual relationship. He also now lives in New Jersey. A couple of months ago, he starts calling and texting me. He called one day and informed me that he would like to make something happen between us and that I shouldn’t forget about him. He even invited me to come to New Jersey. But I blew it off. I realized when I first met Biggz that we would never have a real relationship. So I never put any real effort into it. But what surprised me was hearing him say things like that. Biggz has never been a “touchy-feeling-talkative” type of guy. So to hear him say that he kinda missed me and wanted to see me, was a shocker. And as the weeks went by, he didn’t let up. So I finally agreed to fly to New Jersey for a weekend.
The thought of spending a weekend with Biggz, frightened me. We had never spent more than a few hours together before. So spending 3 uninterrupted days together was a little scary. But it went over without a hitch. We had a nice time. Upon returning to LA, I texted and called Biggz with no return response. I thought it to be quite odd for him to be ignoring me. And after a week of no response, I sent him an angry email. A few days later, I get a reply saying that his phone was broken, he was out of town, and he would call me as soon as he got back in a couple of days. Those days turned into a month! Yes, a month later he magically appeared. He wanted to see me again and wanted me to come back to New Jersey. I told him this time, he needed to fly to LA.
I’ve always been emotionally guarded around Biggz. Because I knew that we would never have a real relationship, I never let my emotions or feelings come into play. That’s why it didn’t really bother me that I didn’t hear from him that month. But with him wanting to spend more time with me, I started to become confused. I wanted to know why. Why after 3 years was he showing such a strong interest? And I wanted to know the answer to the forbidden question, “how do you feel about me”. So I told him I that I was confused about what was going on and I wanted some answers.
He’s a very straight forward man, and this time was no different. He stated that he wanted us to be “best friends with benefits”.(Yes, you did read that correctly.) Biggz and I have always had an unspoken agreement about what we were to each other. But to hear him actually say it, was a little shocking. So I decided that I needed to think about some things.
I realized that because I was so emotionally guarded towards Biggz, he’s never gotten to know 100% of me. So I told him, that if he wanted to ever get to know all of me, I would have to let down my guard. Which meant that I couldn’t have sex with him anymore. But if he was happy with the superficial relationship that we always had, then we could just keep it going. I knew that Biggz, wouldn’t be happy with this because lately he’s been talking a lot about settling down and getting married to someone. (And I’ve felt like I’ve been on the interview block.) So for him to hear that in order to get closer to me, there would be a no sex clause, was not what he was hoping for.
So that brings us to today. Biggz and I decided to keep doing what we’ve been doing all along. But I told him that I would try to open up a little bit more. After all who knows, Biggz could have been my Mr. Right all along. And so the saga continues….